Tuesday, November 12, 2013
The following point is a point I faced in the past in relation to making the decision on having a baby in relationship with the money point.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that Money is the most important point to consider when the Idea or decision making of having a baby comes into one’s Life.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that without Sufficient money to support my life style plus a baby added I will have consequences that does not just affect me but also the Child and the Child’s life in total and thus the future of Life on earth.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to First look at LOVE and if the love within the relationship is good enough or not to have a baby and to only then look at money, instead of looking at – do we want a baby? Yes or no, and then to first look at practicality which is the point of money as the one thing that allows us to eat/drink have basic needs met daily.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to look at having a baby from a limited perspective of how I feel and how my partner feels and that is all that matters, instead of looking at the entire perspective which is within practicality and common sense where I consider the LIFE of the new Being that will/may be entering this world and how I and my Partner will be able to support and assist the new being to reach his/her full potential within NOT making money an Issue within the child’s life and what support the child will receive.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to Belief that real happiness isn’t all about money, seeing and realizing that having money isn’t about happiness it is about having sufficient support and assistance for oneself within the current system and to not suffer, and thus I see that if I base having a baby on this perspective of money doesn’t bring happiness so FUCK IT let’s have a baby – I am then deliberately already creating a life of fear and suffering where its unnecessary and preventable for the child that will create/produce a human/adult that will simply continue giving as what was given – fear and suffering.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that it is BAD and WRONG to make a decision such as having a baby based on money – seeing and realizing that this decision isn’t first based on money as the decision has to first be discussed within the agreement/relationship and then come to a YES/NO answer from both partners and to then from that decision look at the practical points and if they are in place or not such as Money being the first thing, and to then get everything practically in place first and then have a baby.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to belief that if my partner becomes pregnant without us planning it or have prepared for it that it is a gift from some higher form of life, when the truth is there was simply no protection used – and thus have about nine months to get our shit in place.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to belief that something such as having a baby must happen spontaneously for it to be seen as a sign that this is the right time – seeing and realizing that this spontaneous moment is really just due to irresponsibility and not considering actions and their consequences one and equal.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to NOT consider the BIG picture as the world and to then take everything into consideration within the world, and then my life circles/relationships and my personal bubble, and to within this consider all dimensions to check if I am ready to be a father and to take the Full responsibility for another being within the current world and what’s here and to stand within that as a real decision where I can see My life and the life of the baby and where it will be in 50 years for example and if this decision right now can stand within being supportive within all areas of the babies life to be the best and to reach the fullest potential so that the child can with me bring about a world that is best for all life as being the Father/example.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that there are already Millions of children/babies without parents and homes and basic needs that isn’t close to being met, and thus it is my responsibility to bring a child into this world that will have all the basic needs met for my child and that there is no suffering for my child as this will add one more child to the list of correction, even if it means rather not having a child if the outflow will be that of abuse and suffering.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see and realize that if I want to bring a child into this world that I must be fully aware of how the world functions and where the world is heading as it is currently - so that I know in full awareness what LIFE I am setting up for my child – and thus as I do see this - I see and realize also that it is up to me as a father or a father to be to bring about change within this world not just for my child but for ALL children and all life so that I know my child will live a life I never can/will, and yet give my life for this purpose as what is best for all life as a father.
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To be continued with Self corrective statements.
Saturday, November 9, 2013
|Me and my Partner a few weeks pregnant already.|
I am Starting this new Blog - I decided to Jump right in.
The Question is - can anyone be prepared for being a Father?
I have had a couple of conversations with people about becoming a father - especially when i was working as a salesmen, I met a lot of people - and they all say the same thing, a baby changes your life, most of all they COST you a lot of money.
but from what I have heard most men wasn't prepared - they really did not consider the facts and the physical outflows of their actions - You know that one steamy night - and what it really means to be a father, they all simply learned along the way - yes the practical things that one can only learn once the baby is here sure - but I mean being a father as who I/you are, who a person has accepted and allowed themselves to be - which will be the constant education/influence to the baby/child.
which I saw as not really knowing what to do with the child and this is how children are raised and then run the world once we are all old??
I was actually quit shocked with some of the stories, I cant even tell it here on this blog from what people have told me about becoming fathers and how they handled it. mostly it all adds up to this quite nasty game of the fittest will survive and natural selection.
like the father is just there to be there and the mother is just there to be there and the System will take care of the children, send them to school as soon as possible so that the schools can educate them and raise them.
Yes many DO NOT have a choice, sadly this is the world we have created through our acceptances and allowances so we have to face the consequences till we have had enough and change it to a world that is best for all and actually enjoyable.
but those times when dad and mom gets off from work and the kid is at home and the family is together - education continues - this education is through words and behavior and that is happening constantly and another word for education is brainwashing really - and words and behavior is outflows of Who I/you/we Am/are.
some guys shared with me how after they have a child they start considering their words more because they saw the effects it has on their children and their behavior, like HOW they use swear words, not the swear word itself, the How - the who they are within using the swear words. and that they have changed that - so there was some cool points that i was glad to hear. but these points were only realized once it has already created behavior in the child in relation to the word, and thus the child is quite old already, and thus to late - its learned - not the word - but the intention behind the word and thus a behavioral outflow.
so I listened to a lot of people telling me i must have a baby, I must become a daddy, I must really do it while I am young, then its much more fun and a lot more time to spend with your kids, this is what i am told by other fathers - I found it quite fascinating how obsessed guys were with getting me to become a father?? like group pressure in school.
yet they are mostly at work, making money and paying for the baby/child and they complain about that a lot - and then I am told again that a baby/child gives your life happiness and joy and meaning and it is such a great thing.
it was really mixed messages i got from other people/fathers - But I did not get mixed or moved by it, as i use my own common sense and base my decisions on the common sense and what is practical,
Back to the Question now - can anyone be prepared for being a father?
the answer is YES - of course a person can be prepared - the preparation does not start only once there is news of a baby - the preparation starts already within who I am/who you are and more.and even if there is already news or a baby or child, this still counts, self change is always for the best.
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to be continued on these points on preparation and explanation and SF and SCS that I have supported and assisted myself through.
this blog will have many dimensions within the points of parenting and fatherhood. and my Journey.